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Dis-Solving Conflict from Within presents a new paradigm for looking at conflict. Written by a professional mediator (and an occasional adventure motorcyclist), this book presents a mindfulness-based framework for understanding conflict, and more importantly, responding to conflict with strength, clarity, and ease as opposed to reacting to it with fear, avoidance, or aggression. The first part of the book takes the reader step by step through the method, drawing on famous teachings in both conflict resolution and mindfulness, real-life examples from the author’s own practice, and colorful anecdotes from his personal adventures, which included riding a motorcycle across the Himalayas. The rest of the book is a very practical application for how these teachings can transform the way we live our lives – in conflicts ranging from arguments with your spouse and debates about current affairs at your dinner table to greater societal conflicts and existential challenges facing us.

At once spiritually based, and yet also immensely practical, this book is relevant not just for conflict resolution professionals, but for anyone who wants to live more peacefully with the people around them. In a signature style that is both educational and funny – and always all his own – Henry Yampolsky draws on his formal education, his life experiences, and his knowledge and acceptance that all people, no matter their beliefs, are infinitely connected. Distilling conflict down to our most basic needs as human beings leads the reader to the inevitable conclusion that we are not so different after all. While acknowledging the validity of the stories of conflicts created by humans, Yampolsky gently but firmly guides the reader to the same conclusion he has come to – that conflict can be transformed into an opportunity for growth, connection, and dialogue once we learn to turn within.

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Testimonials and Endorsements

"An outstanding, heart opening, in-depth look at how our perceptions create conflict, and what to do about it to find peace. A truly illuminating book. Read it."

Dr. Joe VitaleBest-selling author of The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and The Miracle

"Much been written about dispute resolution, much that explores the world around us, and much that seeks insight from within, but little that reveals the deep, invisible connections between them. In this voyage of discovery, Henry Yampolsky invites us to explore all three, and the lines that connect them. He describes his own journey, offers practical advice, reveals the wisdom that links the world within to the world without, and calls attention to what will happen if we continue along the conflicted paths that divide us. It is a call - not only to action, but to insight, and the transformational path of dispute resolution. It is a terrific read -- honest, touching, useful, and inspiring."

Kenneth ClokeMediator and Author of The Dance of Opposites and Founder of Mediators Beyond Borders International

As we face times of upheaval and growing conflict, the silver lining is that more individuals and organizations might read and use work like Dis-solving Conflict from Within. I LOVE this book because there is a deep intelligence, compassion, and immediate utility to it. Henry Yampolsky makes mindfulness accessible and potent. I felt myself growing calmer with every page I read. I want this book on every bookshelf and in every boardroom and classroom!"

Tama KievesUSA-Today featured visionary career catalyst and author of Thriving Through Uncertainty and other books.

"In this profound and useful book, Henry Yampolsky brings the inner and outer domains together into a truly holistic program for not only ameliorating conflict but achieving compassionate, harmonious solutions."

Philip GoldbergAuthor of American Veda: From Emerson and the Beatles to Yoga and Meditation, How Indian Spirituality Changed the West

"Drawing on wisdom from both East and West - from meditation and yoga to social psychology and social justice movements - Henry Yampolsky makes a compelling case for the value of self-awareness and contemplative practice as critical tools for dispute resolvers who wish to respond skillfully and compassionately to people enmeshed in conflict."

David A. Hoffman, Esq.John H. Watson, Jr. Lecturer in Law, Harvard Law School, Founder, Boston Law Collaborative

"A poetic merger of spiritual philosophy, mindfulness, psychology, and the practice of peace-building, this powerful text takes readers on an incredible journey that is nothing less than a mind-altering shift in consciousness."

Jeremy Pollack, Ph.D.Founder of Pollack Peacebuilding Systems and Author of The Conflict Resolution Playbook

"Packed with stories and quotations, the work is well-researched but never pedantic and offers fresh takes on core conflict resolution concepts like needs, emotions, and mediation. This is an enjoyable, impactful read."

Suzanne Ghais, Ph.D.Mediator and Author of Extreme Facilitation: Guiding Groups Through Controversy and Complexity

"With wisdom, insights, processes and sharing his personal experiences, Henry explores with us the importance of experiencing and practicing the inner journey to conflict resolution."

Stu WebbCollaborative Law Innovator

"Consider reading this book slowly and with intention. It just may change your life!"

Suzanne SherkinFormer Leader, Mediators Beyond Borders Canada, Conflict Coach, and Author of When Gender is In Question: A Guide to Understanding

"Thank you Henry, I found myself integrating the book into my life/relations as I was reading it, such was the profoundly clear explanation you deliver. How to resolve conflict within is a must have skill for all humans interested in peace on any level."

Adam SchomerAward Winning Producer and Director of The Highest Pass, Heal Documentary, and The Road to Dharma

"Drawing upon a wealth of collective knowledge and wisdom--and grounded and affirmed by his own life experiences--Yampolsky reminds us of the power we hold, individually and collectively, to transform the way we deal with conflict. This thoughtful and cutting-edge book both presents and simultaneously unravels a paradox: by turning inside ourselves, we can better understand the world outside of ourselves and bring peace to both. Rather than tolerating or avoiding the inevitable conflicts in our lives, Dis-Solving Conflict From Within encourages and demonstrates how mindfulness and embracing conflict is a prerequisite to transformation."

Shawn DunningFormer Global Director of Leadership & Training, Search for Common Ground, Founder of Shawn M. Dunning Consulting

"With this book Henry Yampolsky offers a stunningly generous gift, one that in turn becomes a gift to others. The stops on his own journey to wisdom—not a far-off destination, but one that he shows dwells in possibility within each of us—are brought to bear on the formulation of a powerful tool for use any time we are at odds with each other. Dis-Solving Conflict from Within represents a detailed map for learning to observe and listen, respond rather than react, and finally escape the prison of our own stories. Like Dorothy's Kansas, the power to arrive has been inside us all along."

Melissa Holbrook PiersonWashington Post contributor, author of The Secret History of Kindness and other books